I want to say from the onset, that a person’s value in society should be judged only by their intentions, their contributions to their families, their communities, and their workplace. That beyond those things, little else matters in assessing a person‘s character.
And nobody, nobody should be judged by their physical appearance, for any reason, ever.
Still, it’s kind of what we excel at — judging people based on what they look like. It’s our national hobby.
For much of my adult life, I’ve made my living attempting to help people improve their physical appearance, as well as their physical abilities, and physical autonomy. The latter — physical abilities and autonomy are the things that interest me most now as I go about earning a living.
That said, there are still people who utilize my services, primarily as a means of improving their physical appearance. If I’m being honest, I dedicate a portion of each day of my life, as well as direct most of my eating behaviors toward having a socially acceptable physical appearance. How I look in shorts and a t-shirt though, has nothing to do with who I am.
I say often that the world has changed more in the last 5 years than in the previous 10. Of course I’ve been saying that for 30 years. What I mean by that, is that each passing year is increasingly complex. Social, economic, and technical advances are increasing at an exponential rate, the term exponential being literal in this case.
Part of increasing complexity is accepting and hopefully adapting positively to the results and consequences of those social, economic, and technical advances. In a strange way, changing social trends which happen so rapidly, seem to occur gradually. They just sneak up on us. Obesity is a great example of this.
Several years ago I watched the movie Festival Express, a documentary about the Grateful Dead and other bands of the day, on a one week tour across northern Canada by train during the summer of 1970. In the course of the movie, there’s much footage focusing on the crowds at the concert stops. There were a lot of thin young people — the men often shirtless and looking like human xylophones with so many ribs exposed, and the women in sundresses with shoulder blades looking bony enough to cut a finger on.
After watching Festival Express that evening a few years back, I watched the concert DVD from Woodstock 1990. Among the mud and the mayhem, there were few examples of human xylophones and beveled shoulder blades. The attendees were noticeably heavier than the attendees of the Festival Express concerts.
That was the first time I had taken notice of the gradual yet rapid evolution of modern humans. It’s also the first time I remember asking myself if the increasing trend toward obesity would ever reverse.
At the time, primary to my livelihood, was helping to guide people into better eating decisions in conjunction with the exercise that I facilitated on their behalf. On occasion I was successful in helping change eating habits, but most often I was not. That’s because despite my efforts to help people make better eating choices, the complexity of the food system, marketing system, and social eating norms were changing so rapidly yet so seamlessly, that most people didn’t realize what was happening to them or around them.
Marketing got more deceptive. Food composition changed — with a greater emphasis on highly refined carbohydrates, refined sugars, unhealthy fats, and obscene profit potential. Portion sizes, both in restaurants and at home blew up between 1970 and 2000. As this happened, social norms changed. And more to the point, it was a gradual enough process that most people couldn’t see it happening to them or around them. However, between 1970 and 2000 we gained roughly 20% in bodyweight as a nation. (See Greg Crister’s very important book, Fat Land, 2003.)
Through all those changes in dietary habits though, fitness culture increased also. New gyms and chains of gyms opened more frequently and were more accessible than ever. The 24-hour gym was born. Pilates and yoga studios increased in popularity. By 1990, the term cardio became a part of the popular vernacular, when it hadn’t even existed in 1980. And despite obesity levels rising, I put faith in my industry, that fitness would eventually gain traction and thwart the obesity epidemic.
I’m not sure where I was or what I was doing the day that I gave up on the idea of obesity declining, but I have given up. I don’t know anybody, myself included, who doesn’t want to lose some weight, look a little better, and feel little bit better. And there are many who would like to lose a lot of weight, so they can feel and function better.
Through it all, if I’ve got anything right, it’s in honing my ability to see beyond the human form. A part of that, is my increasing belief that I will go on to live somewhere else beyond this life, and so too will everyone else. Heaven perhaps, or possibly another universe, another dimension, or that we might come back as crawfish or woodchucks, but I don’t think the game ends here.
I confess that 20 years ago I was not that good at seeing beyond the human form. Today though, when I make eye contact with and interact with another person, it’s my highest priority to look beyond their shell — to see the essence of who they are by observing their behaviors and listening to their words.
Yes, one can argue about health issues caused by obesity — that it’s a drain on the medical systems, insurance systems, the family, the workplace, and society in general, and I made that argument professionally for much of my adult life. I just don’t see it that way anymore. People are people, so let’s look ‘em in the eye and see them as we also hope to be seen. The complexities of society are going to take us where they’re going to take us, and thus far they’ve taken us to a more obese culture. In the process, we should simply try and be good people.
At the end of the day, if we can be good with weekly mass shootings, an overly racist president, and all people everywhere pointing fingers and calling names rather than seeking to understand, and if within all of that we can simply carry-on, then we can get good with the idea that real democracies have curves.
This is what I think about when I ride… Jhciacb
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8 thoughts on “Real Democracies Have Curves…”
Thoughtful, as always.
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Thank you, Leslie. It’s choppy and incomplete, but I always write these in 30 minutes or less. Again, thank you!
I have a serious crush on Eleventeen Cupcake! Now with that out of the way:
On the judgement thing. I think it’s genetic for people to physically judge others. Not that we can’t override our currently destructive genetic tendencies, it just adds to the difficulty.
As for obesity. Yes, that is here to stay until we have a catastrophic event that removes most of our food supply. I doubt stepping on a scale will be a priority then.
I will be quite happy with a kinder less violent world no matter how fat we may be.
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It’s funny, in a non-funny kind of way. The events that have corroded and divided our nation over the last couple of years have truly led me more deeply into seeing beneath and beyond the surface.
In that sense, I’m grateful for the Donald Trump era. It has led me to better understand who I really a.m. what really matters.
And if you’re ever out here, and we go for a bike ride, I give you my word Eleventeen Cupcake is yours for the weekend.
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A+ my Brother. I just love cupcakes period,Eleventeen looks like my kind of ride. Love your collection of cycles. Now with that off my mind. With my current health conditions and wake up calls,I’m back on track to manage and care for my well being. 60 by 60 is my goal. Shed 60 lbs by next April 2020 60th Bday. 220 lbs on a 5’7″ frame is too Curvaceous. I’m Thankful for my upbringing raised a Military Brat of an Islander 31 year Army Vet Dad and a Japanese Mother who tells me I’m fat,out of love. Stationed living abroad:Hawaii,Germany,back east,southeast helped me learn to adapt to many cultures. One thing the Old man taught and told us. ” Do what the locals do,experience the food,art,music,and language. You may not agree with it all,however appreciate their differences,Do not pre-judge,this will help break down prejudice” I live by the Old Man’s words and pass it down to my kids,family, friends and anyone who’ll listen. Aloha Love to All
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60 by 60. I’m in. How can I help….?
You’re absolutely right that we should look beyond physical features to the true person, whether that be weight or how they choose to dress etc, etc. It’s so easy to judge by looks. Conversely, I’ve felt much better since returning to training both physically and mentally since shedding weight, I’m more confident, less confrontational generally. Personally having weight on made me feel depressed. Only speaking for myself here but People didn’t see the real me in those days. Not sure what my point is, just my thoughts.
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I totally get it. We haven’t been connected long enough for you to know this, but in 1993 I suffered a severe skydiving accident and was bedbound for over a year. During that time I gained nearly 60 pounds and by the time I was on my feet again felt disgusted with myself, very depressed and had a horrible outlook on life.
As I got into fitness again and took control of my eating, I began to feel much better about myself. and I tend to think most people who have some weight to lose will feel better about themselves if they lose it.
However, with the majority of Americans having excess weight, I think it’s imperative that I look beyond it. It’s just where society has taken us, for better or for worse.
As always, Bandy 😉, I appreciate your input very much!